23 Feb

LIFE GOES THROUGH CYCLES

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We feel that we inspire by sharing our personal experiences. I have decided to share some very personal experiences that hopefully will make a difference in other people’s lives.


I want to share my last nine years with you. I had achieved success as an entrepreneur. Yes I made some mistakes, but was building up again. We moved to Cape Town for our children. We wanted our kids to enjoy the Cape Town schools and the lifestyle. I wanted to get involved in business again so I joined a company that was seeking finance. I soon became a partner and I invested R1,5 million of my family’s money. I also raised a further R7 million from investors. As a third shareholder, I did not have control. My partners got so caught up in being entrepreneurs that they started expanding the business while still making losses. It was not sustainable and it collapsed four years later. I fought till the bitter end to make it work but eventually had a fall out with my partners. I had signed certain sureties that eventually cost me more capital. I lost everything, all my properties that I had built up over the years.


The above caused severe strain on my marriage. In May 2011, I bought another company utilising the profits to pay for the purchase consideration. In July 2011 my marriage collapsed and I moved to my own place. It was an extremely traumatic time in my life. I have three children and have always been a very involved father. Not see them daily tore me apart. Three months later I met someone new and we started dating. It was totally wrong. I had just bought a new business, marriage collapsed, not seeing my children all the time and a new woman was just not a good combination to prosper. In February 2012 I pulled out of the new business, broke up with my girlfriend in March and in April,  slipped into an emotionally dark space.  I was alone and realised that if I had to die, no one would actually know for days. I let myself sink deeper into that dark space.


On the 1st of May 2012, my spiritual brother, Rolf, gave me a book called The Four Agreements. That day, I made a conscious decision to get myself out the circumstances I was in. It was a decision. I have not looked back. I started my accounting practice again. Through this process I started Caban. My friends backed me and we got things going. In January 2013 we officially launched Caban. Now I am happy, doing what I love.  I paid the price for my mistakes. On 25th November 2017 we will list Caban. We are starting to make a difference again.


It does not matter how bad things look at present. Make a decision to change your circumstances. If you persist your circumstances will change. Life does go in cycles, its natural. It’s how you handle your down cycle that defines who you really are.

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6 comments

  • Comment Link Tuesday, 26 February 2013 21:23 posted by da very good site. I recently decided on a ch hair and nearlfamippthe strength it takes to overcome stress

    Just wandered onto this webpage cos a friend posted a link on facebook. Looks like a very good site. I recently decided on a change of career. I lost my hair and nearly my family so I fully appreciate the strength it takes to overcome stress and regaining positivity! Great story.

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  • Comment Link Monday, 25 February 2013 11:21 posted by Lebohang

    Thanks for sharing your story Dave, it's inspiring...thank you!!

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  • Comment Link Sunday, 24 February 2013 15:19 posted by Peter

    I am so glad that you shared this story online. It shows that even successful sometimes fail, and fail BIG, but have the tenacity to get up and keep going. Well done Dave.

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  • Comment Link Sunday, 24 February 2013 15:02 posted by Judy

    inspirational

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  • Comment Link Sunday, 24 February 2013 14:24 posted by Matur

    Really Cool

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  • Comment Link Sunday, 24 February 2013 14:22 posted by Fox

    Very Inspirational

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